fix(bt): Update bt lib for ESP32(a2a7457)

- Fixed assert in ke_mem.c at line 409 when controller reset
- Added config for BLE instant passed workaround
- Fixed connection can't be established when initiating and advertising coexist

components/bt/controller/esp32/Kconfig.in

@@ -478,6 +478,23 @@ config BTDM_BLE_ADV_REPORT_DISCARD_THRSHOLD
         If you set `BTDM_BLE_ADV_REPORT_DISCARD_THRSHOLD` to a small value or printf every adv lost event, it
         may cause adv packets lost more.
 
+menu "BLE disconnect when instant passed"
+    config BTDM_BLE_LLCP_CONN_UPDATE
+        bool "BLE ACL connection update procedure"
+        depends on (BTDM_CTRL_MODE_BLE_ONLY || BTDM_CTRL_MODE_BTDM)
+        default n
+        help
+            If this option is enabled, Controller will terminate the connection
+            when instant passed during connection update procedure.
+
+    config BTDM_BLE_LLCP_CHAN_MAP_UPDATE
+        bool "BLE ACL channel map update procedure"
+        depends on (BTDM_CTRL_MODE_BLE_ONLY || BTDM_CTRL_MODE_BTDM)
+        default n
+        help
+            If this option is enabled, Controller will terminate the connection
+            when instant passed in channel map update procedure.
+endmenu
 
 config BTDM_RESERVE_DRAM
     hex